|In making relationships, you should spend more time.|
Whether a Christian or not, have you felt offended inside a church service? Have you experienced something you personally disapproved among your Christian friends? Did you feel a little bit guilty for feeling or thinking things like these? Below are just some of my personal thoughts on such things.
1. Fast-food-store-like greeting
Isn’t it nice to be greeted by someone at the door of your church? Yes, it is!
However, there are times when they greet you very excitedly that they start asking one or two questions about yourself. It is very overwhelming at first that you begin to take their how-are-you questions seriously. You silently start becoming involved that you want to say something smart. The moment you are about to say something, they suddenly greet someone behind you without excusing themselves. They just walk away from you, forgetting that they had asked you some questions which you wished to answer.
Not all the times it happens but sadly it happens. For me that is offensive. Of course I understand. But how about those who just have attended for the first time? How would that put an impact to them?
Also, it looks like spiritual relationships at church are becoming business-like. It is as if they are just doing their duty, nothing personal. But it is not business. It is making disciples. In making relationships, you should spend more time with sincere desire that you want to really get connected with a person. When you invite someone and receives a NO, please do not stop there. Ask and try to research more about that person so you could help that person to have time.
2. Reaching out to other nations
Reaching out to other nations is a beautiful thing. There are churches which were established through this method. However, the new generation becomes so obsessed that they all want to go and reach out in far places. Again, there is nothing wrong with this, especially if the intention is pure and sincere. But let us not forget that a huge percentage of people around us need to be reached out, too.
Sadly there are some Christians who are choosing who are to disciple and who are not to disciple. It’s rarely now that I encounter real follow-ups. In 1970s Steve Murrell heard the gospel for the first time and his initial reaction was to run away. Good thing that a youth pastor named Ron did not stop pursuing him until in November of 1975 Murrell accepted Jesus as his personal savior. This seems to be missing a lot nowadays—the Christians like Ron who keeps running after the runaways.
3. Very pattern-based
Four years ago I had training in discipleship. In fact some of my batch-mates are now youth pastors or campus ministers. Some of them expected me to go and disciple non-believers the way they do it. However, I don’t totally agree that discipleship or a ministry should be boxed in that concept.
Once I told them that my ministry would be in a form of writing (Blogging, etc.). Sadly none of them supported me on this. It hurt and it’s true that I better keep my eyes on Jesus alone.
I cut this list down to three observations for now. But I would like to end this by citing what my former pastor said before. He said something like this:
“Do not get too busy in serving in the kingdom that we forget about the king.”
Source: ONE 2 ONE Personal Follow-up and Discipleship (for the story of Steve Murrell)
Personal Disclaimer: I am a Christian not because I originally chose to be one. I became a Christian because God chose me. And my life as a Christian is not perfect according to the standards of the world. It is perfect because of what Jesus did for me thousand years ago.